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ED happens to a man - but often
women suffer the physical and
emotional consequences too.
Now experts say don't close your eyes to the problem. Instead, learn how to cope . . . and help yourself and your man.
By Colette Bouchez
The TV commercials make it all seem so simple: He can't get an erection so he pops a pill - and the next thing you know his partner is cooing about how her guy is back to his old wild and romantic self.
What the commercials don't show you: The arduous, difficult and sometimes painful distress a woman can experience when her man suffers with erectile dysfunction (ED).
" Women internalize things - they tend to blame themselves first, thinking it's because they have done something wrong, or that they are no longer attractive to their partner - in fact the first thing a woman thinks when a man can't get an erection is that it's her fault, and nothing could be farther from the truth," says Andrew McCullough, MD, Director of Sexual Health and Male Infertility at NYU Medical Center in New York City.
ED, or erectile dysfunction, is medically defined as the inability to achieve or sustain an erection long enough for sexual intercourse. While virtually all men experience some erection failures at certain points in their life - the result of stress, depression, or sometimes even for no reason at all - for some, the problem becomes chronic.
When it does, a diagnosis of ED is made - and according to the American Foundation for Urologic Disease, it's a problem that affects upwards of 18 million men in the United States alone.
Although many women -and men as well - continue to view ED as a sexual issue, in truth, the most common causes are undiagnosed physical conditions such as diabetes, high cholesterol or even the earliest stages of heart disease. Even more often it can be the result of certain medications used to treat these conditions, particularly some high blood pressure drugs.
Unfortunately, experts say that a lack of education about the causes of ED are frequently behind a woman's self-blame, as well as her increasing anxiety, and sometimes, even feelings of hurt and anger when the problem occurs.
" Most women usually start with a line of questioning that often has some anxiety or hurt to it - she may suspect her partner is having an affair, or that he just doesn't find her desirable anymore, so she begins to hint around at these possibilities," says Sallie Foley, MSW, a professor at the graduate school of social work at the University of Michigan, and co-author of "Sex Matters For Women," (The Guildford Press, NY).
Often, says Foley, a man suffering with ED will interpret her questions -and her hurtful attitude - as an attack on him, so he pulls back.
"She then experiences this pulling back as a confirmation that she has done something wrong - and so she retreats even further," says Foley. As she does, Foley says increasing levels of anxiety or depression can set in, along with suspicions about what's going on with him, as well as a continued belief that there is something wrong with her.
The end result: The couple can stop communicating altogether - not only in the bedroom, but in all the rooms of their life. And that say experts, can only make problems worse for both partners.
"The one thing a woman should never do is withdraw - because that is a formula for relationship disaster," says McCullough. When one partner pulls away, he says, the other withdraws as well, and " this kind of dance goes on where you stop touching each other, then you stop talking, and before you know it you are not communicating at all."
How it affects a woman . . .
www.YourMenopause.com - Menopause health advice and information on sexual dysfunction
Is your partner plagued by erectile dysfunction (ED)?
Here's encouraging advice on how to cope.
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